It Really Is All About Me

I feel better today. The boys will be out of school tomorrow for dentist/ENT visits so Big Kid is going to work on his make up work during morning recess today. I decided not to do donuts, more so because today is the 3rd which means a busy banking day, but I will credit myself for coming up with the genius idea. BK did not, to my amazement, fall apart when I told him. I just apologized and promised I'd do better.

This morning they walked into the school at 7:59 a.m. Take that beeotches.

So, my sister in law gave me a book that I've been trying to find for a couple of years. It's called The Language of Letting Go and I think it's targeted at recovering addicts, which I am not, but I love most of the daily meditation thoughts. Here's some questions from yesterday's that had me and BFF thinking...

We do not have to put our life on hold. There will be repercussions from doing this. Go on with your life. Take life a day at a time. What is something I could be doing now to take care of myself, make myself feel better, get my needs met in an appropriate, healthy way?

BFF and I struggled to find something that we could do just for ourselves. Our entire lives as mothers revolve around our household and the needs of others, so how do you separate that from your own needs and wants especially after you've trained yourself for years to put your needs and wants last? We both realized that our identities are so tied up in that of our families, that we have forgotten how to think about just ourselves and I think that is a problem.

I told BFF we should start small... what was one thing that she wanted to do daily that she just couldn't seem to make time for? Hers was reading the newspaper uninterrupted. I suppose I should mention the fact that BFF is a SAHM to 3 children under the age of 7. So, she and I formulated a plan that could possibly give her 30 minutes of free time for just her. I don't know when she's going to implement our plan though because life is so busy that there is just no time for it.

Mine was the whole getting up earlier thing, which actually ties into my duties in my household, but I'm justifying it as being for me because I could then relax in the morning and maybe even have a cup of coffee before I leave the house instead of running around like a crazy person in the limited amount of time I give myself each morning. This should translate into lower blood pressure, less stress and an all around better day for this mom. Right? My family will just reap the fringe benefits from it.

So, my question for you guys today is: What is something you want to do for yourself to make sure that your needs are met and that you feel like an individual human being today? [i.e. not a mom, wife, Girl Scout leader, soccer coach, banker, teacher, etc.]

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